Wednesday, 18 January 2017

Emotional Infidelity- A Key Tactic To Save your Marriage

Hearing that your cheating spouse is “in love” with someone else is devastating. I hear often, “I can handle her having sex with someone else. I think I can live with that. But, for her to give herself emotionally and “love” someone else…man, that is hard.” (Feel free to substitute the word he for she in this article.)

how to save your marriage

What can you specifically do to increase the odds of saving the marriage?

So often the offended spouse reacts with intense feelings and pulls out all stops to “win her back.”

He applies pressure. Begs. Cajoles. Makes promises. Gets in her face. Sends flowers. Arranges for dates. Talks to her family and friends. Calls her on the phone. Asks questions… daily, sometimes hourly. He is on her like a fly on doo-doo.

It doesn’t work.Why? Well, for one reason she has found all the stimulation and excitement she supposedly needs in her new found “love.”

At a deeper level this is confusing enough for the cheating husband or cheating wife. Any additional input will be overwhelming and she is liable to close the door on the marriage even further. Plus, she is really looking for some stability, some solid centered core that will hold her firm when the wind of drama entices her and blows around her.

If you bombard her with your neediness, you are certainly not the person who can help her in ways she really seeks.

She also is liable to create a polarity and begin comparing you to him. With your neediness dripping all over you, you don’t stand a very good chance of coming out on top. Sorry!

Here’s a tactic that helps solve the dilemma and gives you a greater chance of saving the marriage.It’s called “back off!”

Stop pressing. Slow down the pace. Be silent – most of the time. Stop making requests. Stop asking questions. Stop trying to wiggle out some assurance. Stop being a pain!

Remember, this “in love” state will fade. You need to have the confidence that it will. You need patience. The relationship will run its course.

She needs the space. She needs some quiet moments to truly hear herself and face the emptiness within. There will be a voice within her that says, “This will not last. Is this what I really want? At some time I must live in the real world. Where is this taking me? Is this where I really want to go? Why am I so dependent on him? Why do I feel this empty pit in my stomach when I’m not with him? What does this say about me?”

This is her opportunity to learn about TRUE love. Don’t get in her way.

I know. I know. This is easier said than done. But, you must do it. It is vitally important that you learn to quiet yourself, control yourself and keep on the straight and narrow path.

At this point with those I coach, I teach them a skill called “charging neutral” to help “back off.” Use that skill.This will take some effort. It might take some coaching or therapy. It most likely will demand that you get to know yourself better, that you gain more confidence in you – apart from what she does with him – that you build a strong foundation under yourself that can weather any storm.

This is your opportunity to grow to another level.

Oh, by the way. She will notice! And….she might like it.

Backing off does not mean that you don’t have anything to do with her. Quite the contrary. You want to maintain your contact with her, but it will be QUALITY contact. It will be contact that does honor to you, confronts her with the reality of her decisions and works toward resolution for the marriage.

Summary: Less often means more when facing emotional infidelity. Learning a specific skill such as “backing off” enhances one’s chance to save the marriage.
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New Music Video #YouAreGreat By Eddie Charles

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you are great-eddie charles

Inspirational music video 'You Are Great' by Eddie Charles. This New music video is the latest gospel single from Eddie Charles, meant to inspire, motivate and ignite worship in the heart of individuals. 'You are great' has a fusion of Hausa language in it (a language of the northern part of Nigeria).

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Eddie Charles is a pure breed in gospel music genre. listening to him you will agree he is not just a regular artiste but a music minister seeking to impact lives.
He is undoubtedly one of the fast rising gospel acts at the moment not because of his irresistible charming voice but because of his outstanding ability to minister, move and touch lives through his songs. He hails from Imo State but is resident in Jos, Plateau and has been into music for years mostly with trial albums.

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Monday, 16 January 2017

Madara - Ijaya ft. Kheengz | @Ijayamusic


In anticipation for the Oga Akorin EP. Ijaya drops this fresh tune titled “Madara” featuring one of Niger state finest music acts, Kheengz who is obviously one of Nigeria’s new skool prolific artiste.

Ijaya delivers good music and he is on course to stardom this year with this new music titled “Madara” which is "Milk"in Hausa dialect. Listen, Download and Share your thoughts.

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Saturday, 14 January 2017

MC Spinosky @mcspinosky - New Year Carol Comedy Skit

​Radio Nigeria-Atlantic FM OAP, MC and Comedian - The "Abide W't Me" croooner - MC Spinosky; kicks off the year with a cocky video skit.  In this New Year Carol titled 'Danger Bells', he goes insane once again calling it a treat for Nigerian MMM folks. Stop wondering what he has done this time in this precursor to the highly anticipated #AbideWtMe video.

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Friday, 13 January 2017

DJ Vibez - Two Zero One Seven (Turn Up Mixtape) | @deejayvibez

DJ Vibez - Two Zero One Seven (Turn Up Mixtape)

The Incredible DJ Vibez Dishes Out The Perfect Blend Mixtape To Turn Up Year 2017. This Mixtape Consists Of Both Naija & Foreign Urban Vibes. Checkout The Tracklist And Download Below. Enjoy!!!

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1. Wizkid x Efya - Daddy Yo
2. DJ Kronixx - Hand Inna The Air
3. Justin Bieber - Sorry
4. Av8 - Hip Hop Ragga Rmx
5. DJ Xclusive x Timaya - Jam It
6. Lk Kuddy x Yung6ix x Wizkid - With You (Remix)
7. Justin Bieber x DJ Snake - Let Me Love You
8. Lil Kesh - Shele Gan Gan
9. Tekno - Diana
10. Davido - Gbagbe Oshi
11. Sugarboy - Legalize
12. Instrumental
13. Konshens - Bruk Off Yuh Back
14. Korede Bello x Tiwa Savage - Romantic (Remix)
15. Que Peller x Olamide - Carolina
16. Olamide x Burna Boy - Omo Wobe Anthem
17. Chopstix x Yung L x Burna Boy - Woman
18. Mr Eazi - Hollup
19. Dotman - Akube
20. Mr Eazi x Lil Kesh - Sample You (Remix)
21. Ycee x Reekado Banks - Link Up
22. DJ Spinall x Mr Eazi - Ohema
23. Runtown - Mad Over You
24. Reekado Banks - Killy Person
25. Kiss Daniel - Good Time
26. D Banj - Focus
27. Il Bliss x Reekado Banks x Mr Eazi - Jawon Laya
28. Dice Ailes x Lil Kesh - Miracle
29. Olamide - Pepper Dem Gang
30. Fat Joe - All The Way Up
31. DJ Khaled - Do You Mind
32. Kranium - Nobody Has To Know
33. Dej Loaf - Try Me
34. DJ Snake x Jeremih x Young Thug - The Half
35. Bobby Shmurda - Hot Nigga
36. Iggy Azalea x Rita Ora - Black Widow
37. Rich Homie Quan - Flex Ooh Ooh Ooh
38. Fetty Wap - Dip Dip
39. French Montana x Drake - No Shopping
40. John Legend - Green Light
41. Nicki Minaj - Side To Side
42. Future - Wicked
43. Yo Gotti - Down In The DM
44. Future x Drake - Where Ya At
45. Llyod Banks - Beamer Benz Or Bently (Instrumental)
46. Young M.A - Ooouuu
47. Drake - Energy
48. Kent Jones - Don't Mind

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Wednesday, 11 January 2017

Is it bad to wear makeup to the gym?

Is it bad to wear makeup to the gym

We all have come up with a question of whether it’s good or bad to wear makeup to the gym or not. We tried to answer this question after asking Cecilia Wong, aesthetician and founder of Cecilia Wong Skincare and here’s what we’ve found.
The Wash Cycle
If you wash your face before you work out, it doesn’t mean you’re exempt from washing it after — each rinse serves its own purpose. It’s important to cleanse your skin first to remove all makeup and any bacteria that could enter your pores while you're sweating. It's equally important to wash your face as soon as possible after to remove any germs and dirt that may have accumulated during the workout, explains Cecilia.

Is it bad to wear makeup to the gym

If time is really of the essence and you can only wash once, whether you do it before or after depends on your makeup routine. “If you’re using heavy, oil-based makeup, it’s very important to wash it off before working out," says Dr. Nazarian. "This type of makeup is more likely to cause damage when your skin temperature rises and you start to sweat. Otherwise, if you wear light powder or BB cream, the likelihood of harm to your skin is much less, and rinsing off the sweat and bacteria following a workout becomes more important."

So if you insist on wearing makeup while you work out, stick to light powders and BB creams rather than heavy liquid foundation. Look for labels that say "noncomedogenic," meaning the product won’t clog your pores. "Choose foundations with more natural, organic, and clean ingredients, as they are often lighter in weight," adds Wong.

Beyond Your Base

It's not just your face makeup you need to worry about; don't overlook the stuff you put on your lips and eyes. “Although the potential for these beauty products to do harm is minimal, they’re likely to smear and smudge during a vigorous workout, and can clog delicate the pores around your eyes and mouth, leading to styes of the eyelids and blackheads around the lips,” warns Dr. Nazarian.

Some skin-care professionals advise opting for waterproof eyeliner and mascara in the gym if you really want to wear them, but Dr. Nazarian thinks those formulas should be off-limits, too. “The non-budge mascara and eyeliner may be worse, because they tend to be less breathable and adhere tighter to the skin,” she says.

Is it bad to wear makeup to the gym

Finally, take a look at the skin-care products in your gym bag. Wong suggests washing your face with a gentle cleanser (alcohol-free wipes are acceptable, although not quite as effective), spraying it with a toner, and applying a light moisturizer before and after working out. She says, “Skip the heavy moisturizers with thickening agents like dimethicone, as they can lead to clogged pores."
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Tuesday, 10 January 2017

Rythnm - "Oba" | ‪@rythnm_artist ‬

As 2017 continue to unravel the greatness abound, piphanic Entertainment frontier Rythnm debuts with his first official Single titled OBA (KING). R.Y.T.H.N.M Is an acronym for "Raised You To Help Nations MySon". Download, listen and share!

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