Firstly, I’d like to say that I really appreciate the opportunity that you’ve given me to be your coach. There’s a couple of things that I’d like to run through before we get started. You really need to be open minded to get the best out of this program, it’s like the old saying, the mind is like a parachute, it only works
when it’s open.
One of the most important things you need to be aware of is “Social Hypnosis”, we get hypnotised by the beliefs of all the people that we surround ourselves with and we really need to put those aside while we are reading this, to gain an understanding of some things from a different perspective. This will allow you to weigh it up and decide what you want to do with it.
I know, just because you’re reading this right now, you are one of the few who act, as opposed to many who just talk and wish for things to be easier. So let’s now cover some ideas on how to create success in any area of our life, and yes that’s right I am talking to you!
We’re going to go through a model for change. The question I have for you is do you experience emotions that you would prefer to experience less? What would those emotions be called? Some would be called anger or maybe frustration or fear and so on.
What I’m about to reveal is a model for change; it is not “THE” model for change it is “A” model for change. There are many ideas out there but this is one that I have used for over a decade and it’s made a significant difference to me and the many thousands of others I have shared this with. If the way you try to change thins in your life isn’t working as well as you’d like, then give this one a shot.
For the purpose of this exercise, I’m suggesting that we assume the emotion is the end result, I realise that our emotion or how we feel has a huge influence over how things turn out or the results you get, so if you buy into this model it then means we have the opportunity to change the emotion. Then buy changing the emotion we will get different results.
Let’s quickly walk through this model. This model is saying if you want your results to improve how you feel needs to needs to change. For example if you are a sales person and you are always pessimistic and down in the dumps you are not going to sell a whole lot. Enthusiasm is the ticket for making sales and if you follow this model you will have an abundance of it. Or perhaps there have been times in your life when being calm would have gotten a great outcome in a certain situation but at the time “calm” wasn’t even on the radar!
This model says that how you behave, or in other words how you move your body (body language) determines how you feel. If you don’t believe me stop what you are doing right now and leap up and put the biggest, craziest smile you have ever done on your face. Now I bet you feel different doing this than you did just reading the previous sentence. You may feel silly or embarrassed right now (That is of course if you did it and didn’t just sit there like most people would) or perhaps you feel like laughing, but you DO feel different. Because the way you use your body changes your emotions and in this model that body movement or body language is being labeled behaviour.
We will unpack other ways to use this model in future articles but
for now I challenge you to start to manage your emotions with your
body language, have a ton of fun with it and share it with your friends.
Till next time, remember you only have your bad habits to lose so, GO FOR IT!!
All good things,
Mick Hawes THE HEAD COACH